UNCONSCIOUS CHILDHOOD MESSAGES VS. MESSAGES YOU WANTED TO HEAR:
Type 1 – “It’s not okay to make mistakes.” vs. “You are good.”
Type 2 – “It’s not okay to have your own needs.” vs. “You are wanted.”
Type 3 – “It’s not okay to have your own feelings and identity.” vs. “You are loved for yourself.
Type 4 – “It’s not okay to be too functional or too happy.” vs. “You are seen for who you are.”
Type 5 – “It’s not okay to be comfortable in the world.” vs. “Your needs are not a problem.”
Type 6 – “It’s not okay to trust yourself.” vs. “You are safe.”
Type 7 – “It’s not okay to depend on anyone for anything.” vs. “You will be taken care of.”
Type 8 – “It’s not okay to be vulnerable or to trust anyone.” vs. “You will not be betrayed.”
Type 9 – “It’s not okay to assert yourself.” vs. “Your presence matters.”
