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True Nature of Each Enneatype

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Point 8

True Strength

Living Life as a Lionhearted Adventurer

Working on the obstacles to weakness, or to strength, through understanding our early dynamics, gives us more access to true strength, and integrates this state of Being in our present consciousness. True strength can be heat or fire in the belly or a flow of red-hot strength. We might feel strong with a sense of capacity or wholeness. It is a strength that does not fade or decrease. It can only expand and deepen, and it gives our life great vigor, aliveness, and expansiveness. That expansion can become unstoppable and endless if we continue our spiritual journey. This is the key to unlocking the knot of the Eight’s fixation. But this also gives us a strength that will be useful in our life, in our spiritual practices in general, and in dealing with the core of all types. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p38)

Point 6

Personal Will

Landing in the Grounded Support of Being

If we are a Six (or any type), personal will gives us the key to unraveling our fixation and tackling its core with more capacity. It is the appropriate tool from the invisible world, and it helps us liberate ourselves from all the distorting, crippling, and problematic patterns and traits. At the same time, we are regaining access to an important aspect of our being that will help us in living our life with confidence and steadfastness, just as it can assist us in our practices with true commitment and certainty. We can focus and stay steady in that focus. We can be mindful and not forget the mindfulness thanks to our natural steadfastness and a genuine nonconceptual commitment. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p54)

Point 2

Merging Love

Embodying the Melting Sweetness of Being

Besides unraveling the deeper knots of the type and supporting our inner practice, the experience and integration of this aspect is quite an addition to our life. As an enormous enrichment of our heart the merging love can spill over to our relationships and life in general. Our giving becomes genuine, the heart connectedness is real, and flattery and manipulation are no longer needed. In other words, the integration of the merging gold into one’s soul makes type Two more sincere and truthful, more direct and transparent in their interactions and dealings with the world. But you don’t have to be a Two to have this generous heartfulness or this way of approaching life and relationships. You simply need access to the essential quality. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p66)

Point 1

Brilliancy

Knowing the Luminous Intelligence of True Nature

By integrating brilliancy – the essence of intelligence and the true perfection – we learn about our being in a significant way, and we know presence with more depth. Brilliancy is powerful for gaining synthesizing insights from many dimensions because it brings us the capacity for synthesis that is not available to the ordinary mind. And brilliancy also provides the specific key that can unravel the shell of the One type and help penetrate its deeper core. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p78)

Point 3

Personal Essence

Maturing into Divine Humanness

Looking at our capacity to be personal, our capacity for contact and relating in a real way, and at our functionality, we become open to the arising of the true person that we are. A real person is a human being, free from the mind, the demands of time, and the influence of culture and family – a truly autonomous individual, in the world but not of it. This truth is what feeds the soul as it grows and matures. This maturation becomes an essential individuation, culminating in the station of the pearl beyond price, the royalty of the inner realm. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p92-93)

Point 4

Essential Identity

Knowing You are the Luminous, True Self

The essential identity is a particular sense of presence and nowness. It is both an identity and a timeless sense of being or presence. At the same time, as we realize and integrate this essential identity, we become free from the patterns of the Four type, and we realize the qualities and characteristics behind the idealization. We are authentic, special in an ordinary way that does not require the limelight or applause, deep and profound without having to announce it to others or create dramas around it. We are original by simply being ourselves, and our creativity tends to be naturally and spontaneously original, without us having to seek out originality. We are complete, and our expressions are true and authentic. We live simply in freedom that does not seek recognition. This is the true inner freedom. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p106)

Point 7

Pleasure Vehicle

Revealing the Bliss of Inner Truth

The more we are loyal to the inner truth, regardless of what it is, the closer we are to the Markabah. It is the turn inward, the loyalty to the path of inner truth that can become the shortest route to this multi-faceted vehicle of delight and pleasure. For it is the turning inward toward the truth that reveals itself as the soul’s greatest pleasure – coming home to itself. This discovery can be so deep it can lead to realization and some degree of liberation. This is true for all types, but the vehicle of essential pleasure is particular to the Seven type, and so it is most important for them to examine where their true loyalties and priorities lie. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p121)

Point 9

Boundless Love

Discovering the Goodness, Richness, and Holding of the Spiritual Universe

By experiencing and integrating [Boundless Love] and by recognizing it is a quality of their nature, Nines may see their patterns begin to reveal themselves as historical distortions and impressions. If Nines – or any of us – are lucky or prepared enough to experience divine love itself, then it becomes a nondual awakening to reality, where we experience the unity of being as love and goodness. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p134)

Point 5

Diamond Guidance

Liberating the Soul Through Essential Intellect

Through awakening the essential intellect, Fives are liberated from the limited mental perspective that dominates the shell and this open-mindedness and direct knowing is vital to help penetrate the core of their fixation. But all types will benefit from access to the Diamond Guidance – synthesizing what is known and penetrating what is unknown as it provides understanding and insight for the soul’s journey toward liberation. (Adapted from Keys to the Enneagram, p149)

A Guide to Enneagram Wings: What Are They All About?

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27 OCTOBER 2019 / BY LILY YUANClinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on October 27, 2019

Wings: great when served deep-fried, paired with a tear-jerking ballad, or extended upon an intricate personality model to uncover your ego’s conscience (hint: what you’re about to learn). In short, Enneagram wings are important extensions of your core Enneagram type, which provide more detail about your own unique, colorful personality.

For example, an individual who receives the following results after taking our (free!) Enneagram test would have a complete Enneagram type of 6w7, as Type Six is their most pronounced core type, with the Seven as the stronger neighboring wing (instead of the Five).

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(Pictured above: An example of a 6w7’s results)

Let’s jump right in and take a closer look at how wings work within the Enneagram personality model, with plenty of examples.

How Enneagram Wings Work

Enneagram types take off (pun intended) with influences from an adjacent type. For example, a Type Two (The Giver) could take the wing of the Type One (The Perfectionist) or Type Three (The Achiever). Some people have influences from both possible wings—however, there’s usually a stronger (i.e., dominant) wing.

Your dominant wing finds its way into your Enneagram type and acts as a sidekick to all of your inner motivations and goals. Although wings are commonly referred to as ‘extensions’ or ‘helpers’, they hold great power to unlock the potential of your multifaceted personality. And that’s where the exciting part comes in—the ability to recognize your patterns and change them!

As for notation, Enneagram wings are officially referenced (in addition to your main Enneagram type) as ‘[Core Enneagram Type Number]w[Wing Number]’. For example, “5w6” reads aloud as “Five Wing Six”. In this case, the core Enneagram type is Five, and the respective supporting wing is Six.

The Importance of Understanding Enneagram Wings

How much do Enneagram wings matter in comparison to your core type? Before moving on to wings, it’s essential to understand the key ego fixations, motives, vices, and virtues of each Enneagram core type.

By understanding wings, you can gain a clearer picture of what your inner motivations look like and how they emerge from your actions and thoughts. You’ll also be able to figure out which career paths align well with your interests and talents. On top of achieving your long-term career goals, you’ll also be able to explore potential lifestyles and environments in which you’d thrive in.

Although each of the nine Enneagram types can be influenced by both possible wings, there’s often a stronger one. It’s excessively rare — if not impossible — to have equally balanced wings. However, it’s not especially comm. It’s just as difficult to find a perfectly balanced ambivert who scores precisely 50/50 on the Introversion–Extraversion scale.

Differences Between Core Type and Wings

Can your Enneagram core type exist without its wings?

Wings can be thought of as on a continuum, in line with your core Enneagram type. They’re attached to your core Enneagram type, which we discuss in more detail below:

Your core Enneagram type (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, or 9) sets the framework for your behaviors and thought patterns. Your wing, on the other hand, branches out from your Enneagram roots and gives it a spinoff. It’s similar to having a coffee with a vanilla or espresso shot—which makes it all the more interesting!

Examples of Wings and Behavior

Wings can significantly alter how behavior manifests in an individual. For example, a 3w2 would focus on getting ahead, aiming to acquire a fanbase or support network (the Two wing influence). The 3w4, in comparison, would primarily aim for originality and self-expression in their achievements.

The same core type that sports different wings results in different preferences under the same situation. For example, a 7w6 may opt for a career in stand-up comedy to combat their inner fears and anxieties with the Six wing. A 7w8, on the other hand, could gravitate towards travel blogging and exploring the world while maintaining a large amount of creative freedom.

You may have challenges distinguishing between two Enneagram types (with wings), in which the core Enneagram type and wing number is flipped, such as the 5w6 and the 6w5. It becomes more of a challenge if both numbers fall under the same triad (the Head triad, in this case). The 5w6 would place more value in their intellectual pursuits, whereas the 6w5 focuses on trying to eliminate their anxieties.

Brief Descriptions of the 18 Enneagram Types With Wings

What does each Enneagram type look like, with wings? Find your personal description in a nutshell:

1w9: Practical and meticulous perfectionists with a knack for catching inconsistencies in others’ reasoning and judgment.

1w2: Socially aware activists and advocates who work tirelessly behind the scenes to uphold high safety standards for others.

2w1: Deeply empathetic and caring individuals who find fulfillment in others’ happiness and well-being.

2w3: Outgoing and productive organizers who thrive on connecting people together and being part of a group.

3w2: Socially-savvy and popular go-getters who enjoy meeting new people and networking events.

3w4: Driven and organized ‘boss’ always on the go with new business ideas and projects — who finds great joy in efficiency and rewards.

4w3: Charismatic and individualistic artist with a sense of wonder about the underlying beauty in nature, as well as the spectrum of human emotions.

4w5: Intense and artistic creator on a mission to use self-expression to highlight the universality of the human condition.

5w4: Idiosyncratic (and often autodidactic) lone ranger who deeply values autonomy and mastery in a subject.

5w6: Detached and curious researcher who gains energy from digging into fascinating topics, under the radar.

6w5: Resourceful and dutiful team worker who highly values security and knowledge, often with a great sense of humor.

6w7: Optimistic and fun-loving explorers of life with a (somewhat contradictory) need for safety and comfort.

7w6: Happy-go-lucky and humorous experience junkie who is always on the search for new projects to undertake.

7w8: Creative and innovative entrepreneur who enjoys experimenting and creating with new mediums and ideas.

8w7: Headstrong and confident self-starter who works hard and plays hard—paired with a fearless attitude.

8w9: Servant leader who keeps others’ best interests in mind to preserve harmony and gently encourages them to take action.

9w8: Independent yet calm vagabond on a (rather quiet) mission to discover what makes society a kinder and more accepting place.

9w1: Collected and pragmatic saver who values cooperation and justice, along with the feeling of being connected to others in their community.

When instinctual variants (six different stackings) are taken into account, this leads to 108 (18 Enneagram types with wings x 6 instinctual stackings) possible combinations.

It’s anything but cut-and-dry — and only covers the basic gist of the Enneagram basics. There are numerous extensions of the Enneagram, such as alternative triads, instinctual variants (as mentioned above), and many more. Ready for take-off?

In Summary: The Takeaway

  • Each Enneagram type has two adjacent wings

  • One of the adjacent wings is more dominant than the other

  • Wings can be thought to be on a continuum rather than a fixed label

  • Your behavior and personality are influenced by wings

  • There are 18 Enneagram descriptions with core type and wings

Are you familiar with the Enneagram wing system? How do you differ from a person with the same core Enneagram type as you, but taking the alternative wing? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Lily Yuan

Lily Yuan is a personality psychology writer who tests as INTP and constantly questions her type. Learn more at www.lily-yuan.com. Explore her blog at www.personality-psychology.com.

About the Clinical Reviewer

Steven Melendy, PsyD., is a Clinical Psychologist who received his doctorate from The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. He specializes in using evidence-based approaches in his work with individuals and groups. Steve has worked with diverse populations and in variety of a settings, from community clinics to SF General Hospital. He believes strongly in the importance of self-care, good friendships, and humor whenever possible.

Enneagram Passions

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Enneagram Ones – Anger – Irritated

feeling irritated that there’s a difference between ‘what is’ and ‘what’s right’. It is a chronic dissatisfaction with how things are.

Enneagram Twos – Pride – Being indispensable

feeling more important than one actually is. It is about doing things for other people in order to feel better about yourself.

Enneagram Three – Self-Deceit – False image

deceiving yourself as to who you really are by trying to be someone else. It is about becoming what others admire or value.

Enneagram Four – Envy – Lacking

constantly comparing yourself to others and only noticing what you are lacking or don’t have. It is a constant sense of inner deficiency, wishing for what is “missing” and comparing yourself to someone who has it.

Enneagram Five – Avarice – Closed heart

closing your heart to receiving and giving. It means hoarding one’s time, knowledge, energy and resources out of fear of having nothing.

Enneagram Six – Fear – Anticipation

of apprehension, tension or uneasiness suggest that something is wrong, but the source of danger is not obvious. The heart constantly anticipates the worst

Enneagram Seven – Gluttony – Wanting more

an excessive desire to consume whatever feels good. It is an insatiable and unrelenting need for constant stimulation of any kind – for people, places, experiences and things.

Enneagram Eight – Lust – Being Excessive

‘lust’ is excess; excessive energy and intensity. The craving for intensity spreads across all areas of life for an Eight, for which food, work and pleasure are only some of the ways it manifests.

Enneagram Nine – Sloth – Self-forgetting

doing every action, except the right one – the one that matters most to the Nine.

Prayers for the Nine Enneagram Types

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Loving Lap, (type 2)

As I rest in your care, anchor me in my humility so that I may know myself more fully, honoring my gifts as well as my limitations. I desire to be real, to know what is mine to do and not to do. Empty me of my need for eternal approval. Guide me toward receptivity, that I may participate more fully in my own life, offering myself compassion as well as others. Dissolve my pride, Holy One, that I may be more available to my own needs, and to the present unfolding of my life without agendas. Open my heart to the support of others. Remind me of my interdependence so that I no longer inflate my own abilities but am grounded in the reality of who I am. Grant me a willingness to be open to what arises, so that I may find my freedom in your unconditional love.

Source of Hope, (type 3)

Create in me a refuge for accepting myself, a place where I am fully known and loved. Dissolve my pretenses that diminish my genuineness. Empty me of the masks and facades that blind me to who I am, that keep me deceiving myself and others. Guide me deep, slow me down, open my heart, so that the great love within me flows naturally with no need to impress or support an image. Teach me to honor my fear and doubt, to remem- ber the hesitant one within me that I push aside to keep up my impressive performing. Remind me to allow this one to have a voice in my life that I may receive her/his wisdom. Divine Lover of my being, be my foundation as I journey to my heart and express my feelings—my sadness, my anger, my delight—those emotions I hold in check to protect my image of the moment. For I am a lovable and loved being and offer gratitude for those in my life who see me real and love me.

Weaver of Beauty, (type 4)

Thank you for seeking me, for never stopping to seek me. Open me to the intimate connection between us that I may rest in your grace. Empty me of all the ways I abandon myself, these self-rejections that evoke shame. Soften my comparing mind and my longing, that I may know gratitude for what I have and for who I am. Guide me in the path of appreciation for the beauty and possibility that surrounds me, that is within me. Sacred Source of my life, ground me in my inner calm and remind me of the holy and the beautiful in the ordinary. Open my eyes and my heart to see your gracefilled touch in all of life. From this “seeing” I know there really

are no ordinary moments, for all is sacred.

Abundant Source of Grace, (type 5)

Awaken in me my full knowing, that I may remember my heart’s desire. Give me eyes to see the many ways that life is abundant, the blessings offered me each day. Empty me now of my need for predictability that stifles my spontaneity. Dissolve the stingy part of me that contracts me and withholds my gifts and love from others. Give me the wisdom to know when to think and when to act. Calm my fears and instill in me the courage to open my heart and engage with others, knowing I’ll be nourished. As I come to my full senses, I offer grati- tude for my body’s wisdom. May I begin each day, grounded in that wisdom and in my presence, knowing that I have enough—time, energy, information and passion to live fully engaged in life.

Copyright 2010 Sandra Smith, M.Div., Certified Enneagram Consultant sandraCsmith@charter.net AlchemyWorksEvents.com

Sacred Ground of my Being, (type 6)

You are within me and beyond me, forever present. Your love enfolds me as I go about my days. I am not alone. My suspicions fade when held in your unwavering assurance of me. Empty me now of my anxieties and imagin- ings. Assuage my fears. Create in me a refuge for trusting myself. Remind me of my inner resources and power. All I need is within me, to be called forth in trust so I may stand on my own solid foundation. Knowing your steady Ground is with me, I move forward in an uncertain world. Guide me as I travel the path of courage so I may lean into myself when the waters are troubled, having faith in the unfolding, growing myself into my own authority. Hold me in the fearful times, hold me in the fearless times. In your Holy Ground I rise to offer my full and powerful self in each moment.

Holy Creativity, (type 7)

Your love and grace know no limits. You offer the completion I seek. Gently guide me to my fulfillment that awaits me when I rest in the calm of present moment. My mind seeks such calm. Empty me now of my obses- sive planning and all the ideas that overwhelm me. Soften my fears of missing out so I can allow my energy to deepen me, not scatter me so that I miss out on the gifts offered each moment, gifts that lead to my wholeness. Guide me to my heart, that I may feel not only my joy, but the richness of my sadness. Deep down, I recognize that it is my sadness that I seek, it is limitation I desire. For both bring me home to my deeper self where I find the freedom to be me. Guide me on the path toward reverence.

Loving Protector, (type 8)

Watch my back as I wade into the waters of waiting for I do not trust easily. Empty me of my need to assert my- self, empty me of my need to blame others when things don’t go my way. Soften the walls surrounding my heart, the rigid boundaries, my strong opinions. Embrace me as I wait, so that I may know the richness in stillness and open my heart to the affection of others. May I be present in my waiting without judgement and without fear, knowing that you abide with me always. Ground me in your gentle and loving presence that I may be gentle and loving with myself and others. Remind me each day that we are all one and that in our unity we find hope.

Unconditional Lover, (type 9)

Create in me a refuge for remembering myself, a safe place where I can go deep and explore the full range of who I am. Dissolve my fears of my anger, Holy One, so that I may allow it to guide me in knowing what matters to me and what the matter is. Empty me now of my resistance to my inner journey, my resistance to waking up to my life. Remind me of my own lovability, so that in loving myself, I may genuinely love others, and in this loving show up in the peaceful times and in difficult times. I no longer want to deprive myself of my life, Holy Lover of my heart. Be my foundation as I honor my life and my relationships by offering my aliveness and my full being.

Great I AM, (type 1)

You, with no memory of the past and no eye on the future, hold me in this perfect moment. Thank you for your acceptance of who I am and loving me because of who I am. Empty me now of my judgment and guilt. Teach me forgiveness, so that I may forgive myself for not forgiving myself. Journey with me on this path toward accepting myself as I loosen rules and lower standards that prevent me from fully loving. May I come to know, deep in my marrow, my inherent goodness so that my earning and efforting may end and I can rest in your boundless grace and mercy.

Copyright 2010 Sandra Smith, M.Div., Certified Enneagram Consultant sandraCsmith@charter.net AlchemyWorksEvents.com

Which is the Most Difficult Enneagram Type to Type?

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Which is the Most Difficult Enneagram Type to Type?

11 AUGUST 2022 / BY CIANNA GARRISON

Understanding your Enneagram type isn’t always straightforward. You may take the Enneagram test and feel confused about your results because you share similarities with more than one personality type, which isn’t uncommon. That’s because some Enneagram types are more challenging to type than others. But what is the most difficult Enneagram type to type? The answer might surprise you.

What is the most difficult Enneagram type, in a nutshell

Not all Enneagram types are as difficult to type, but there’s one, in particular, that is harder to discern from the others. Drumroll, please…..

Out of the nine Enneagram types, Type 9, “The Peacemaker,” can be the most difficult type to pick out of a crowd.

Why is Type 9 a difficult personality to type?

Type 9s are all about maintaining peace and harmony. As such, they spend much of their time blending in with others and prioritizing other people’s needs over their own — even pretending to like things they do not to help keep the peace and happiness of their group.

The problem is, that few Type 9s are aware of these innate motivational patterns. Because they understand the inner workings of other types and what it takes to keep the peace, they may answer test questions while thinking about the needs of others — and that can lead to a confusing, obscured result when Type 9 isn’t honest with themselves.

Are you a true Type 9 or something else?

To determine if you or someone else is an Enneagram 9, the best thing you can do is to look at the main fear and motivation of Type 9. An Enneagram Type 9 is most afraid of coming across as needy and therefore pushing others away by appearing too clingy or dependent. Because of this fear, Type 9s makes themselves as agreeable as possible, avoiding any upset in relationships or disagreements, even when they feel neglected inside.

As for motivation, Type 9 will strive to create peace in their environment and relationships, and they will not seek out or engage in a conflict where possible because they’d rather keep everyone happy.

If this sounds like you, you might be an Enneagram Type 9 — but you should also look at the other Enneagram types to be sure.

Could you be an Enneagram Type 2?

Type 9 has a lot of overlapping characteristics with the Enneagram Type 2. Both types are kind and easy-going, and they also both put others’ needs ahead of their own. They are similar in their need to please others at the expense of their own needs and to maintain a level of peace and harmony.

Like Type 9s, Enneagram Type 2s struggle with feelings of inferiority when they’ve been pushed away and unaccepted by others. However, their primary motivation is different. For Type 9s, the motivation is to have peace; they’re allergic to conflict and turmoil in relationships and at home, so they’re the most likely to bend over backward to prevent negative emotions from coming through. Because of this, the differences between Enneagram 2 and Enneagram 9 are the easy summary: Type 9 is more passive about things, while Type 2 goes out of their way to engage with people and provide an overall feeling of care.

While Type 9 cares for others, they aren’t as confronting about it. For example, a Type 2 will be the person mothering a group, making treats to send home with others, and asking if anyone needs help, seeking out their friends like a guardian. Meanwhile, Type 9 spends more time agreeing with others’ choices, maintaining a passive attitude, and trying to meditate on scenarios that have gone bad in their inner circle.

Heart versus Body types: how this can help you determine if you’re an Enneagram 9

The Enneagram Type 9 is a Body type, which may also help you discern if your typology is correct. As a Body type, you’ll be more physical in both your and others’ reactions. Physical comfort will mean more to you than anything else, which is apparent in your actions toward others and your desire to stay independent from the outside world.

If, by chance, you’re a Heart type like an Enneagram Type 2, you’ll be more empathetic by nature and strive to understand your feelings and the others around you. Your emotions will rule you more than logic and physical reactions, and you connect more with people who also feel pulled by their hearts over their heads.

The Enneagram Type 9

To discover if the Enneagram Type 9 personality type fits you, you should look at the traits most of them exhibit. A true Enneagram Type 9 will have most of the following traits:

  • A talent for diffusing conflict among others
  • A cool and calm attitude
  • A relaxing voice and demeanor
  • More than a few acquaintances and friends
  • A passive attitude when it comes to decision-making
  • A gentle, agreeable being
  • General avoidance of anger and ill feelings
  • Devaluation of their own feelings and qualms
  • An overwhelming desire to stray from negative emotions

Still having trouble typing yourself?

You may not be able to tell if you’re an Enneagram Type 9 right away. That’s because 9’s are great at sensing other peoples’ problems and are used to melding to whatever their friend group wants them to be to appeal to them as agreeable, easy-going individuals.

However, if you think you might be an Enneagram Type 9, take a look at the main traits of this Enneagram type and think about what motivates you — what makes you seek out friendships, and how do you navigate those relationships? A straightforward answer will point to whether you’re a Type 9 or some other Enneagram type when you analyze your core motivations and fears.

The takeaway

Enneagram Type 9s might be the hardest to type in the Enneagram personality type system, but they’re valuable personalities who sacrifice their own needs to help others feel comfortable. Because it isn’t always easy to type an Enneagram 9, you should question your test results if you receive an answer that doesn’t sound like you. As with all personality tests, though, you should remember your personality type isn’t always infallible, and you can take your results with a grain of salt. No test will pinpoint every instance of your personality because all people have unique traits that shine through, whether they’re an Enneagram Type 9 or anything else in between.

Cianna Garrison

Cianna Garrison holds a B.A. in English from Arizona State University and works as a freelance writer. She fell in love with psychology and personality type theory back in 2011. Since then, she has enjoyed continually learning about the 16 personality types. As an INFJ, she lives for the creative arts, and even when she isn’t working, she’s probably still writing.

11 AUGUST 2022 / BY CIANNA GARRISON

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Understanding your Enneagram type isn’t always straightforward. You may take the Enneagram test and feel confused about your results because you share similarities with more than one personality type, which isn’t uncommon. That’s because some Enneagram types are more challenging to type than others. But what is the most difficult Enneagram type to type? The answer might surprise you.

What is the most difficult Enneagram type, in a nutshell

Not all Enneagram types are as difficult to type, but there’s one in particular that is harder to discern from the others. Drumroll please…..

Out of the nine Enneagram types, Type 9, “The Peacemaker,” can be the most difficult type to pick out of a crowd.

Why is Type 9 a difficult personality to type?

Type 9s are all about maintaining peace and harmony. As such, they spend much of their time blending in with others and prioritizing other peoples’ needs over their own — even pretending to like things they do not to help keep the peace and happiness of their group.

The problem is, few Type 9s are aware of these innate motivational patterns. Because they understand the inner workings of other types and what it takes to keep the peace, they may answer test questions while thinking about the needs of others — and that can lead to a confusing, obscured result when Type 9 isn’t honest with themselves.

Are you a true Type 9 or something else?

To determine if you or someone else is an Enneagram 9, the best thing you can do is to look at the main fear and motivation of Type 9. An Enneagram Type 9 is most afraid of coming across as needy and therefore pushing others away by appearing too clingy or dependent. Because of this fear, Type 9s makes themselves as agreeable as possible, avoiding any upset in relationships or disagreements, even when they feel neglected inside.

As for motivation, Type 9 will strive to create peace in their environment and relationships, and they will not seek out or engage in a conflict where possible because they’d rather keep everyone happy.

If this sounds like you, you might be an Enneagram Type 9 — but you should also look at the other Enneagram types to be sure.

Could you be an Enneagram Type 2?

Type 9 has a lot of overlapping characteristics with the Enneagram Type 2. Both types are kind and easy-going, and they also both put others’ needs ahead of their own. They are similar in their need to please others at the expense of their own needs and to maintain a level of peace and harmony.

Like Type 9s, Enneagram Type 2s struggle with feelings of inferiority when they’re pushed away and unaccepted by others. However, their primary motivation is different. For Type 9s, the motivation is to have peace; they’re allergic to conflict and turmoil in relationships and at home, so they’re the most likely to bend over backward to prevent negative emotions from coming through. Because of this, the differences between Enneagram 2 and Enneagram 9 are an easy summary: Type 9 is more passive about things, while Type 2 goes out of their way to engage with people and provide an overall feeling of care.

While Type 9 cares for others, they aren’t as confronting about it. For example, a Type 2 will be the person mothering a group, making treats to send home with others, and asking if anyone needs help, seeking out their friends like a guardian. Meanwhile, Type 9 spends more time agreeing with others’ choices, maintaining a passive attitude, and trying to meditate on scenarios that have gone bad in their inner circle.

Heart versus Body types: how this can help you determine if you’re an Enneagram 9

The Enneagram Type 9 is a Body type, which may also help you discern if your typology is correct. As a Body type, you’ll be more physical in both your and others’ reactions. Physical comfort will mean more to you than anything else, which is apparent in your actions toward others and your desire to stay independent from the outside world.

If, by chance, you’re a Heart type like an Enneagram Type 2, you’ll be more empathetic by nature and strive to understand your feelings and the others around you. Your emotions will rule you more than logic and physical reactions, and you connect more with people who also feel pulled by their hearts over their heads.

The Enneagram Type 9

To discover if the Enneagram Type 9 personality type fits you, you should look at the traits most of them exhibit. A true Enneagram Type 9 will have most of the following traits:

  • A talent for diffusing conflict among others
  • A cool and calm attitude
  • A relaxing voice and demeanor
  • More than a few acquaintances and friends
  • A passive attitude when it comes to decision-making
  • A gentle, agreeable being
  • General avoidance of anger and ill feelings
  • Devaluation of their own feelings and qualms
  • An overwhelming desire to stray from negative emotions

Still having trouble typing yourself?

You may not be able to tell if you’re an Enneagram Type 9 right away. That’s because 9’s are great at sensing other peoples’ problems and are used to melding to whatever their friend group wants them to be to appeal to them as agreeable, easy-going individuals.

However, if you think you might be an Enneagram Type 9, take a look at the main traits of this Enneagram type and think about what motivates you — what makes you seek out friendships, and how do you navigate those relationships? A straightforward answer will point to whether you’re a Type 9 or some other Enneagram type when you analyze your core motivations and fears.

The takeaway

Enneagram Type 9s might be the hardest to type in the Enneagram personality type system, but they’re valuable personalities who sacrifice their own needs to help others feel comfortable. Because it isn’t always easy to type an Enneagram 9, you should question your test results if you receive an answer that doesn’t sound like you. As with all personality tests, though, you should remember your personality type isn’t always infallible, and you can take your results with a grain of salt. No test will pinpoint every instance of your personality because all people have unique traits that shine through, whether they’re an Enneagram Type 9 or anything else in between.

Cianna Garrison

Cianna Garrison holds a B.A. in English from Arizona State University and works as a freelance writer. She fell in love with psychology and personality type theory back in 2011. Since then, she has enjoyed continually learning about the 16 personality types. As an INFJ, she lives for the creative arts, and even when she isn’t working, she’s probably still writing.

27 Subtypes

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THE 27 SUBTYPES

Subtypes exist within each of the nine types, broken down into three distinct versions according to how the passion of each type combines with one of three instinctual biases or goals that all social creatures share, directed either toward Self-Preservation, Social Interaction, or Sexual (or One-to-One) Bonding.

When the passion and the dominant instinctual drive come together, they create an even more specific focus of attention, reflecting a particular insatiable need that drives behavior. These subtypes thus reflect three different “subsets” of the patterns of the nine types that provide even more specificity in describing the human personality.

For each of the nine types, there is a “countertype” subtype. In every case, with each of the nine points of the Enneagram, there are two subtypes that go with the flow of the energy of the passion and there is one that is upside-down: one that doesn’t look like the others and goes against the main energetic direction of the passion. This “counter-passional” type is called the “countertype” of the three subtypes. For example, the “counter-phobic” Sexual Six is the most well known of the countertypes. It’s a Six who is unafraid. The passion of the Six is Fear but the Sexual subtype goes against fear by being strong and intimidating as a way of coping with fear.

THE TYPE ONE SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION ONE: WORRY

Self-Preservation Ones are the true perfectionists of the three Ones. They express the passion of anger through working hard to make themselves and the things they do more perfect. In this subtype, anger is the most repressed emotion; the defense mechanism of reaction formation transforms the heat of anger into warmth, resulting in a friendly and benevolent character.

SOCIAL ONE: NON-ADAPTABILITY

Social Ones (unconsciously) consider themselves to be perfect; they express anger through focusing on being the perfect model of “the right way” to be. They have a teacher mentality that reflects an unconscious need for superiority. In the Social One, anger is half-hidden—there’s a transformation of the heat of anger into cold. This is a cooler, intellectual personality type in which the main theme is control.

SEXUAL ONE: ZEAL

The Countertype

Sexual Ones focus on perfecting others; they are more reformers than perfectionists. The only One who is explicitly angry, they act out anger through their intense desire to improve others and get what they want. They feel entitled in the way a reformer or a zealot can feel entitled: they believe they have a right to change society and get what they want because they have a higher understanding of the truth and the reasons behind “the right way to be.” The countertype of the Ones, they are more impulsive and outwardly angry—they go against the “counter-instinctive” tendency of the One to repress anger and impulses.

THE TYPE TWO SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION TWO: PRIVILEGE

The Countertype

Self-Preservation Twos “seduce” like a child in the presence of grown-ups as a way of (unconsciously) inducing others to take care of them. Everyone likes children, and the SP Two adopts a youthful stance as a way of getting special treatment well beyond childhood. As the countertype, it’s less easy to see pride in this Two because they are more fearful of and ambivalent about connecting with others. The title “Privilege” reflects this Two’s desire to be loved and prioritized just for being who they are, not for what they give to others. Related to the youthful stance, these Twos are playful, irresponsible, and charming.

SOCIAL TWO: AMBITION

The Social Two is a seducer of environments and groups—a powerful, leader type whose pride manifests as a sense of satisfaction in the conquest of an audience. This is a more adult Two in whom pride is the most obvious; the Social Two cultivates an image of being an influential, super-competent person worthy of admiration. The name “Ambition” reflects this person’s desire to “be on top,” and as a result of this lofty position, receive advantages and benefits. This Two “gives to get” the most and always has a strategic angle when expressing generosity.

SEXUAL TWO: SEDUCTION/AGGRESSION

Sexual Twos seduce specific individuals as a way of getting needs met and feeding their pride. Similar to the “femme fatale” archetype (and male equivalent) this Two employs the methods of classical seduction to attract a partner who will meet all their needs and give them whatever they want. The name “Aggressive-Seductive” suggests a character who is appealing, but who also wants to wield some power. Energetically like a force of nature, this is a person who becomes irresistible, who inspires great passions and positive feelings as a way to meet needs in life.

THE TYPE THREE SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION THREE: SECURITY

The Countertype

Thee Self-Preservation three has a sense of vanity for having no vanity. This Three also wants to be admired by others but avoids openly seeking recognition. Not just satisfied with looking good, the SP three strives to be good. They are determined to be a good person—to match the perfect model of how a person should be. Being the perfect model of quality implies virtue, and virtue implies a lack of vanity. SP Threes seek a sense of security through being good, working hard, and being effective and productive.

SOCIAL THREE: PRESTIGE

Social Threes focus on achievement in the service of looking good and getting the job done. They act out vanity through their desire to be seen and have in-fluence with people. They enjoy being on stage in the spotlight. Social Threes know how to climb the social ladder and achieve success. These are the most competitive and most aggressive of the Threes. They have a driving need to look good and possess a corporate or sales mentality.

SEXUAL THREE: CHARISMA

Sexual Threes focus on achievement in terms of personal attractiveness and supporting others. In this Three, vanity is not denied (as in the SP Three) nor embraced (as in the Social Three), but is somewhere in between: it’s employed in the service of creating an attractive image and promoting important others. These threes have a harder time talking about themselves and often put the focus on others they want to promote. They put a lot of energy into pleasing others and they have a family/team mentality.

THE TYPE FOUR SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION FOUR: TENACITY

The Countertype

The Self-Preservation Four is long-suffering. As the countertype of the Fours, SP Fours are stoic in the face of their inner pain and they don’t share it with others as much as the other two Fours. This is a person who learns to tolerate pain and to do without as a way of earning love. Instead of dwelling in envy, SP Fours act out their envy by working hard to get what others have and they lack. More masochistic than melodramatic, these Fours demand a lot of themselves, have a strong need to endure, and have a passion for effort.

SOCIAL FOUR: SHAME

The Social Four suffers more, feels more shame, and is more sensitive than the other two Fours. Envy fuels a focus on shame and suffering as they employ a strategy of seducing others into meeting their needs through an intensification of pain and suffering. They experience a sense of comfort in feeling melancholy. Envy also manifests in lamenting too much, taking on the victim role, and focusing on a sense of their own inferiority. Social Fours don’t compete with others as much as they compare themselves to others and find themselves lacking.

SEXUAL FOUR: COMPETITION

Sexual Fours make others suffer as an unconscious way of trying to rid themselves of painful feelings of deficiency. In denying their suffering and being more shameless than shameful, they express their needs more and can be demanding of others. In seeking to be the best, they express envy in its manifestation as competition. They express “an envy that wants,” unconsciously turning their pain at inner lack into feelings of anger about not getting what they need from others.

THE TYPE FIVE SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION FIVE: CASTLE

The Self-Preservation Five expresses avarice through a focus on boundaries—a need to be “encastled” in a sanctuary where they feel protected from intrusion and have control over their boundaries. SP Fives have a passion for being able to hide behind walls and know that they have everything they need to survive within those walls. They are the least expressive of the three Fives and they try to limit their needs and wants so that they can avoid being dependent on others.

SOCIAL FIVE: TOTEM

The Social Five expresses avarice through a need for “super-ideals,” relating to others with common interests through knowledge and shared values (rather than emotional connection). In this Five, avarice is connected to knowledge. Needs for people and for the sustenance that relationships provide get channeled into a thirst for information. “Totem” refers to a passion for high ideals, the need to idealize experts and seek knowledge connected to whatever ultimate values this Five adheres to. Social Fives engage in a search for the ultimate meaning to avoid experiencing life as meaningless.

SEXUAL FIVE: CONFIDENCE

The Countertype

Sexual Fives express avarice through a search for ideal exemplars of absolute love. This is a Five with a romantic streak. the name reflects their need to find a partner who fulfills an ideal of trust. The most emotionally sensitive of the Fives, they suffer more, resemble Type Four more, and have more overt desires. They have a vibrant inner life that may be expressed through artistic creation but are still cut off from others in many ways.

THE TYPE SIX SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION SIX: WARMTH

Self-Preservation Sixes express the passion of fear through a need for protection, for friendship, and for banding together with others. In seeking protective alliances, SP Sixes endeavor to be warm, friendly, and trustworthy, which is why they bear the name “Warmth.” This most “phobic” of the Sixes has difficulty expressing anger, feels uncertain, and engages in a lot of self-doubt. For SP Sixes, fear manifests as insecurity, and they focus on relationships as a way of feeling safer in the world.

SOCIAL SIX: DUTY

Social Sixes express fear through a need to deal with anxiety by relying on abstract reason or ideologies as a frame of reference. Obeying authority through knowing the rules helps them to feel safe in the world. Unlike the SP Six, this Six has more certainty and can be “too sure” of things as a way of dealing with the anxiety of uncertainty. Social Sixes focus on precision and efficiency. They adhere to whatever the guidelines are as a form of having a protective authority.

SEXUAL SIX: STRENGTH/BEAUTY

The Countertype

Sexual Sixes express fear by going against fear—by becoming strong and intimidating. Trusting themselves more than others, these Sixes have the inner programming that when you are afraid, the best defense is a good offense. They take on a powerful stance, both in what they do and how they look, as a way of holding the enemy at a distance. Their anxiety is allayed through skill and readiness in the face of an attack.

THE TYPE SEVEN SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION SEVEN: KEEPERS OF THE CASTLE

The Self-Preservation Seven expresses gluttony through making alliances and creating opportunities for gaining an advantage. Pragmatic and self-interested, these Sevens find safety through networking and being alert to opportunities that support their survival. The name “Keepers of the Castle” refers to their way of establishing a partisan network of allies through which they create safety and satisfy their needs. Cheerful and amiable, they have a love of pleasure and tend to get what they want.

SOCIAL SEVEN: SACRIFICE

The Countertype

As the countertype, Social Sevens go against gluttony through conscientious efforts to be of service to others. Conscious of wanting to avoid exploiting others, they have a need to be good and pure and to sacrifice their own needs in supporting the needs of others. They have a passion for being seen as good for the sacrifice of their own desires. They express an ascetic ideal and make a virtue of getting by on little. They express idealism and enthusiasm as a way of making themselves feel active and valued in the world.

SEXUAL SEVEN: SUGGESTIBILITY

Sexual Sevens express gluttony through a need to imagine something better than ordinary reality. Gluttons for things of a higher world, they are idealistic dreamers with a passion for living in their imaginations. Sexual Sevens look at things with the optimism of someone who is in love; they see the world through rose-colored glasses. “Suggestibility” refers to being somewhat naive and easy to hypnotize. Light-hearted and enthusiastic, they focus on exciting possibilities and pleasurable fantasies, and they believe they can do everything.

THE TYPE EIGHT SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION EIGHT: SATISFACTION

Self-Preservation Eights express the passion of lust through a focus on getting what they need for survival. SP Eights have a strong desire for the timely satisfaction of material needs and an intolerance for frustration. SP Eights know how to survive in di1cult situations and feel omnipotent when it comes to getting what they need. They are the least expressive and the most armed of the three Eight subtypes.

SOCIAL EIGHT: SOLIDARITY

The Countertype

Social Eights express lust and aggression in the service of others. A social antisocial person, this is the countertype of the Eights, a helpful Eight who appears less aggressive and more loyal than the other two Eight subtypes. The name “Solidarity” emphasizes their tendency to offer help when people need protection.

SEXUAL EIGHT: POSSESSION

Sexual Eights express lust through rebellion and the need to possess everyone’s attention. Sexual Eights are intense, charismatic characters who want to have control and influence. Instead of seeking material security, they try to get power over things and people. The name “Possession” refers to an energetic takeover of the whole scene—a need to feel powerful through dominating the whole environment.

THE TYPE NINE SUBTYPES

SELF-PRESERVATION NINE: APPETITE

Instead of feeling an ongoing connection to their feelings, desires, and power, Self-Preservation Nines focus on merging with physical comforts and routine activities, such as eating, sleeping, reading, or doing crossword puzzles. SP Nines are practical, concrete people who focus on everyday things rather than abstractions.

SOCIAL NINE: PARTICIPATION

The Countertype

Social Nines fuse with groups. They act out laziness when connecting with their own inner life by working hard to be a part of the different groups in their lives. Fun-loving, sociable, and congenial characters, Social Nines can be workaholics, prioritizing the group’s needs above their own. This high level of activity makes them the countertype of the three Nine subtypes.

SEXUAL NINE: FUSION

Sexual Nines express the passion of laziness by merging with the important people in their lives. Sexual Nines unconsciously take on the attitudes, opinions, and feelings of others, because it can feel too hard to stand on their own. These Nines tend to be kind, gentle, shy characters who are not very assertive.

 

Sexual Instinct

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Overview of the sexual instinct

It is frequent that newer students of the Enneagram identify themselves as being dominant in the sexual instinct. The sexual instinct is nothing to do with seeking intimacy or having the preference for one on one conversation/connections. The sexual instinct motivates us to invest energy in ourselves – our passions, our interests and our self-expression – both for the sake of those pursuits and as a way to cultivate fascination and hook potential sexual partners. It leads us to find personal and interpersonal edges. The sexual instinct is aware of our chemistry with others as a means of recognising creative potential.

This instinct is inherently conflictual with the self-preservation instinct because it says “screw safety, give me intensity.” Without the grounding of self-preservation and the contextual awareness of the social instinct, the sexual instinct can render us unconcerned with consequences.

Names given to this instinct

Syntony/adaptation (Ichazo), sexual (Naranjo), the transmitting domain (Mario Sikora)

Names given to sexual subtypes (Russ Hudson’s)

Eight: Taking Charge; Seven: Fascination; Six: Feisty Vulnerability; Five: This is my World; Four: Infatuation; Three: the Catch; Two: Craving Intimacy; One: Shared Standards/Chivalry; Nine: Merging

General characteristics of sexual types

Sexual types – general characteristics

Being identified with the need to elicit the sexual choice of potential mates. For sexual types, much of their identity is organised around being able to win out over the sexual competition.

Attempt to distinguish themselves in a distinct and enticing way, broadcasting a unique and idiosyncratic flavour.

Vacillate between pouring intense focus into the object of desire, and putting energy into interests, traits and talents that function like a peacock’s tail.

Energy galvanises when interested, and contracts when uninterested, abruptly shifting from intense urgency, activation, focus and preoccupation on a specific person to hastily veering attention away/cooling off.

High tolerance for being locked on to a person but thrives on creating tension rather than ease.

Desire for desire leads to an experimental approach to life, and willingness to abruptly change course and follow it to consumption/exhaustion.

Voraciously follow their passion beyond where most have the fire to go. Can have a hard time mobilising energy for practical or social reasons, leading to inability for desires/aspirations to really take off.

Trust pull of attraction without concerning themselves with the hows, few qualms about following inspirations. When inbalanced, they can be slavishly devoted to someone for whom there is attraction but is toxic.

Uninterested in remaining intact, so whatever is established holds little appeal. Can take the direction of needing to escalate situations needlessly.

Typically don’t have a great deal of stability in lifestyle, nor are inclined to cultivate deep roots anywhere.

Characteristics are from John Luckovich’s book, the Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram.

Zones of the sexual instinct

Russ Hudson has identified three zones (or sub-domains) to the sexual instinct:

  1. Broadcasting and charisma
  2. Exploration and edge
  3. Merging

He has broken the categories down further as follows:

Zones of the sexual instinct

=Zone 1: Broadcasting and charisma

Transmitting. Initiating energy that broadcasts. People who have a lot of this often complain that they’re being misunderstood.

Display. Doing behaviours to get yourself noticed. “Check me out”. Need to be seen. Money and wealth as display is self preservation/sexual.

Being attracted and following energy. It is difficult to pay attention when it isn’t there.

Choosing / fitness. Evaluating post attraction. Auditioning and being aware of being auditioned.

Competition/ winning. Aggression.

Zone 2 – Exploration and edge

Activation and arousal.

Taking risks and having adventures.

Getting out of comfort zone. Breaking habits and feeling soggy in routine.

Seeking stimulation.

Following and honouring impulses and inspirations.

Zone 3 – Merging

Disappearing into something or someone. This is restorative as it gets us away from ego self.

Intense focus and concentration applied to activity. But if nothing to lock in on, very distracted and restless.

Losing boundaries and sense of self.

Spending energy. Pouring self into something and giving self wholeheartedly.

Seeking fusion and at oneness.

How it looks when sexual is present, dominant, ‘blind’/repressed

Those of us who are dominant or repressed/blind in sexual experience similar challenges. See the table below.

Present, dominant, blind characteristics

Present

Attraction and magnetism: Being aware of attractions and lack of attraction. Putting energy into being attractive through highlighting strengths/features. Heightened charisma Broadcast a quality of energy that commands attention. We are attracted to people and things that are good for us, that evolve us.

Exploration and edge: More interested in experiencing life powerfully than they are in stability or security. Being drawn to the edges of life and discovering their own edges, energetically. Helps us to get out of our lethargy, our comfortable ‘sleep.’ It activates us and brings us back to the wakeful intensity of this moment.

Fusion/merging: Urge to lose ourselves in something or someone (could be a person, a piece of music or an engrossing book.) We seek conversations where the rest of the world seems to fall away. Leads to a beautiful capacity for focus and for being with the energy of another. Can evolve into a fiery commitment to our awakening, and to staying on track with our practice regardless of what arises.

Dominant/distorted

Attraction and magnetism: We get attracted to people and situations that are repetitions of our narcissistic wounds. We keep signing up for the same hurts and heartbreaks.

Exploration and edge: We are restless and in search of stimulation, distracted from our being.

Fusion/merging: There is a recurrent pattern of losing ourselves in relationships as well as in preoccupations – a difficulty holding a middle ground. all or nothing.

Blind

Attraction and magnetism: Difficult time sensing what turns us on, and getting beyond familiar boundaries and comfort zones. Perceive others’ sexual energy as dangerous and narcissistic.

Exploration and edge: We stay in our comfort zones and are disturbed by others who want to challenge themselves.

Fusion/merging: Appear to have no passion or commitment to anything.

Points to note:

  • Being present in the sexual instinct means being willing to disrupt our routines or risk the disapproval of our social groups for the sake of evolving and transforming. It means being receptive to others’ sexual energy (not judging it) and being tapped into our own. And it means being aware of the charge in our batteries and when it is low, seeking stimulation.
  • Being narcissistically concerned or fearful about sexual matters is a pointer towards the sexual instinct being on overdrive.
  • Being apathetic, negative or judgmental towards others who honor this instinct may indicate a repressed relationship with this instinct.
  • Rarely are we effective across all three of the areas – even when the instinct is dominant or secondary.

Sexual blind characteristics

We develop our habituated stances with the instincts at least partly in response to events and situations in the early nurturing environment.

When you get a clear picture of how you relate to each instinct, often it paints a story/evokes memories of when the instinct priority may have been established.

Related to this idea is the idea that we hold deeply unconscious beliefs about the meaning of this instinct. You may unconsciously believe that by expressing sexual (by being too provocative or unstable):

  • it will create scarcity and harm by undermining resources and foundations. This belief is associated with self-preservation/social types;
  • you will alienate others and be ostracised or abandoned. This belief is associated with social/self-preservation types.

Sexual blind types – general charactersitics

Feel that there is no acceptable arena for relenting to irrational impulses.

There’s a limit to which they won’t let themselves go, or be swept up in something.

Experience the strong obligation to dampen and self-contain, which can effectively limit certain avenues of self-expansion and creativity.

Has the tendency to overemphasise a sense of being consistent, responsible, acceptable and sensible.

Struggle in registering impressions and sensations about what turns them on or trusting chemistry.

Avoids risks to own identity.

Chemistry tends not to be on radar, there is a bluntness to how they approach sex and sexuality, and they can miss or not see the dance of sexual display and attraction.

Appeal of others can be based on affinity and like-mindedness rather than the tension of polarities which sparks chemistry.

Can avoid fully articulating projects and talents for fear of putting others off or offending them. Can be blind to their vibrancy and inadequate attention to self-expression can result in them feeling unremarkable and bland.

May be obsessive about their interests but have the quality of being outside of them.

May experience alienation or lack of comfort with inhabiting the sensation of the pelvis.

Characteristics are from John Luckovich’s book, the Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram.

Development of sexual

Developmental opportunities are more likely than not for dominants and blinds. For sexual types, there may be an issue that is caused by the passion of your type in one of the sexual zones. For sexual blinds, there may be multiple issues caused by neglect in the sexual zones.

Actualised sexual instinct

When the sexual instinct is integrated, it helps us to go for what enlivens and arouses us, invest in ourselves, individuate, develop and express ourselves, and leads us to uncover what expands our felt sense of aliveness.

Russ Hudson describes the transmuted instinct as leading to the unstoppable passion for development and the unwavering devotion to the beloved.

Instinct and type combinations


A note about contradictions with type

For certain types, the sexual focus appears to contradict the passion of the Enneagram type. Building on the work of her teacher Claudio Naranjo, Beatrice Chestnut calls this situation ‘countertype’.

At the end of the day, however, the instincts and the passions are a measure of two different things. Also, there can be unexpected aspects or traits with all the 27 instinct/type combinations.

The best application of the theory of countertype is just to bear in mind that it can be difficult for certain sexual subtypes to identify their core type from the prevalent descriptions. Otherwise, paying too much attention to any contradictions (or allowing for too many) isn’t helpful.

The subtype pattern

Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes have identified some key interventions to do to that counteract or work with the preoccupations of the sexual subtypes. They are not exhaustive.

Sexual subtypes deconstructors (from CP Enneagram Academy, resource from the Workshop ‘Providing Practical Enneagram Solutions’)

Type Eight

Don’t take action, even when you feel a strong impulse to act; exercise discretion when feeling passionate; actively avoid being the centre of attention; be silent and self-contained; hand control over to other people; think more before acting.

Type Nine

Spend more time alone; separate yourself from important others; talk more about desires, wishes, thoughts and feelings; express opinions that are different from those closest to you; be assertive and bossy.

Type One

Own own flaws; smile sweetly when judging and blaming others; loosen rules for others whilst tightening up rules for self, especially around asserting needs and criticising or ‘helping’ others.

Type Two

Do things that will make you be seen as unattractive; talk about things that may disappoint or repel others; directly say when you don’t want to or don’t intend to support someone important.

Type Three

Become non attractive; dress badly; ask for more for yourself in close relationships; allow yourself to displease others; be the center of attention.

Type Four

Become slow and unenergetic; use a low voice; undertake a role of humbly helping others; talk about your pain and sadness; express shyness with soft voice; become a peacemaker; take an inferior position; don’t express anger.

Type Five

Engage in gossip and indiscretion; share deep feelings in group in a direct way before other people do it; be content with basic intimate relationship; express emotions more directly in plain words.

Type Six

Look weak and unattractive; express vulnerability; appear weak and fragile in a threatening situation; be very agreeable; hide or retreat when feeling fearful; share fears with others.

Type Seven

Adhere to routines; be pragmatic; focus on realistic or pessimistic data; stay with the pain and limitations on self and others; ask to see the negative data without looking at the positives.

How the passion manifests for sexual types

To read the three versions of a single type, you can do that on the type-specific pages.

Note that when we move along our connection points, we ‘keep the same instinct’ (and instinctual stacking). So if you hold questions about your type, read the self-preservation versions of the connection points as well. As a reminder:

  • If you are a type Eight, that is types Two and Five
  • For type Nines, that is types Three and Six
  • If you are a type One, that is types Seven and Four
  • For type Twos, that is types Four and Eight
  • If you are a type Three, that is types Six and Nine
  • For type Fours, that is type One and Two
  • If you are a type Five, that is types Eight and Seven
  • For type Sixes, that is types Nine and Three
  • If you are a type Seven, that is types Five and One

How the passion shows up in sexual types

Type Eight: Seek essential power through intense sexual attraction and chemistry, and are excessively forceful in capturing the interest of the desired object.

Type Nine: Look to experience essential harmony through chemistry and sexual relationships, and attraction style tends to be more inviting than pursuing.

Type One: Seeks to experience essential integrity in sexual relationships and displays. Attempts to be best partner and have an untouchable kind of chemistry.

Type Two: Long to find essential love through romantic relationships and attractions.

Type Three: Seeks to experience essential value through desirability and magnestism of displays.

Type Four: Long to experience essential depth through their relationships, creativity and intense experiences.

Type Five: Look to experience essential insight in romantic relationships, chemistry and interests.

Type Six: Seek to experience essential truth through chemistry and in romantic relationships.

Type Seven: Want to experience essential freedom in chemistry, their fascinations and their romantic partnerships.

Self-Preservation Instinct

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Overview of the self-preservation instinct

Less easy to confuse than the other two instincts, the priorities and preoccupations expressing the self-preservation instinct revolve around the physical and emotional wellbeing of ‘me and my world’.

This instinct has us pay attention to all things earthly, practical and sensual: health, money, home, family, lifestyle. Sustainability is a big theme, as the material and emotional quality of life, and how to optimise it.

Self-preservation continually monitors and gauges our immediate physical state. It is the drive that motivates us to test and express our physical capacities and aggression, rest and relax.

Names given to this instinct

Conservation (Ichazo), self-preservation (Naranjo), the preserving domain (Mario Sikora).

Names given to self-preservation types (Hudson’s)

Eight: the Survivor; Nine: the Comfort Seeker; One: Self-Control; Two: Entitlement and Rewards; Three: Security; Four: Sensualist; Five: Solitude; Six: Affection; Seven: Getting Mine.

General characteristics of self-preservation types

Self-preservation types – general characteristics

Tend to seek experiences that contribute to a healthy and full life. Their attention naturally lands on what encourages and sustains growth and what allows themselves and others to thrive.

The most focussed on the body’s direct feedback and state, and can easily become preoccupied with it. When healthy, they are skilled in balancing activation with relaxation, value and make time for themselves, and give themselves permission to just be.

Value personal autonomy and self-reliance. Self-preservation types typically have carved out living and working situations where they won’t have to rely on other people to meet their basic needs.

Sensitive to levels of comfort, sensual pleasure, and the emotional associations and impact of food, environments and material things.

Live the struggle in the polarity between indulgence versus abstinence.

Value consistency and stability, but commonly have an athletic or adventurous streak. Self-preservation types often have an outlet that provides a consistent way of engaging the body’s aliveness directly that enhances physical capacity and health.

Enjoy challenging and testing aliveness through acts of endurance.

Usually have a strong capacity for working and for putting effort in a focussed direction. Ambition is a major theme, although it means different things for each type.

One of their great challenges is finding a creative direction to apply their drive. Self-preservation types can struggle to find a meaningful focus for their tenacity.

Characteristics are from John Luckovich’s book, the Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram.

Zones of the self-preservation instinct

Russ Hudson has identified three zones (or sub-domains) to the self-preservation instinct:

  1. Self-care and wellbeing
  2. Maintenance and resources
  3. Domesticity and home

He has broken the categories down further as below.

Zones of the Self-preservation Instinct

Zone 1: Self-care and wellbeing

Diet

Exercise

Sleep/rest

Relaxation (time in solitude, walk in nature, meditation, yoga, etc.)

Adequate stimulation (reading, listening to music, healthy sex life, watching documentaries, etc.)

Zone 2: Maintenance and resources

Money/finances

Time-management (self-management, time to self, time with others, being on time, etc.)

Practical application and skills (being able to address practical needs, fix things, manage life, etc.)

Work habits/persistence (the ability to follow through, finish tasks, discipline, habits around practical ventures, ways you are handy, etc.)

Energy management ((how we use our energy, deal with stress, balance silence with activity, etc.)

Zone 3: Domesticity and home

Comfort/domesticity

Safety/security

Structure supports life/base of operations (home management, home as a solid launchpad).

Beauty and holding (comfortable and inviting living/workspace, feeling held by your home, etc.)

Recharging/restoration (home as a place to restore).

How it looks when self-preservation is present, dominant, ‘blind’/repressed

Those of us who are dominant or repressed/blind in self-preservation experience similar challenges. See the table below.

Present, dominant, blind characteristics

Present

Self-care and health: Listening to body awareness. Genuine self-care. Getting real nutrition and exercise.

Practicality/Resources: Practical streak. Sense of persistence and going for long-range goals Work to maintain the foundations of life

Domesticity and home: Grounded, stable domestic life. Prefer to be at home than to travel or go out. Develops skills for making the home comfortable and practical, sometimes even beautiful.

Dominant (distorted)

Self-care and health: Overeats or starves. No exercise or over exercise.

Practicality and resources: Constant worry about resources and a grasping approach to life, never feel relaxed or sufficiently secure.

Domesticity and home: Talent for domestic order can become a pattern of lethargy and becoming stuck in ruts. Fears of stepping outside of familiar tracks.

Repressed or ‘blind’

Self-care and health: Avoiding medical and dental check ups. Having haphazard relationships with exercise, rest and diet.

Practicality and resources: Lack focus on resources, hoping others will handle this part of life. Overall, our life lacks structure and regularity. We do things more randomly and our schedule tends to be more changeable.

Domesticity and home: Avoid focus on domesticity. Our home may be more of a ‘crash pad’. May fear getting trapped by domestic life, seeing it as drudgery and heaviness.

Points to note:

  • Being present in the self-preservation instinct means attending to these life areas in healthy, non-neurotic, relaxed ways. It is knowing there is a need and meeting it without excess thought.
  • Being neurotically over-concerned or fearful about self-preservation is a pointer towards the self-preservation instinct being on overdrive.
  • Being apathetic, negative or judgmental towards others who honor this instinct may indicate a repressed relationship with this instinct.
  • Rarely are we effective across all three of the areas – even when the instinct is dominant or secondary.

Self-preservation blind characteristics

We develop our habituated stances with the instincts at least partly in response to events and situations in the early nurturing environment.

When you get a clear picture of how you relate to each instinct, often it paints a story/evokes memories of when the instinct priority may have been established.

Related to this idea is the idea that we hold deeply unconscious beliefs about the meaning of this instinct. You may unconsciously believe that by expressing self-preservation (by being too stable and self-sufficient), you:

  • won’t be attractive and will be sexually overlooked. This belief is associated with sexual/social types; or
  • will alienate others and be ostracized/abandoned. This belief is associated with social/sexual types.

Self-preservation blind types – general characteristics

Struggle to undertake sustained efforts that are supportive and beneficial for their own wellbeing. Because self-preservation blind types place so much attention on relationships.

Something about working on their own self-interest can feel selfish and boring, and it can be hard for them to anticipate the benefits. They may rationalise this as selflessness when it’s actually about not wanting to take energy away from their usual instinctual agendas.

Can struggle to muster the force for moving themselves in an independent direction unless there is significant sexual or social interest. They might fail to cultivate self-reliance in a number of areas. They typically might struggle with creating foundations and sustainable pathways towards aims and goals.

May fear that time spent cultivating their foundations and supporting their wellbeing only takes away time and energy from social and sexual pursuits. They fear will make them boring and unavailable for connection.

Resist individuation.

Unconsciously outsource facets of care for their wellbeing onto loved ones, friends and acquaintances. They can therefore become a burden on others. Unaware of the full scope of what is outsourced, they tend to underestimate the toll it takes on others and can feel entitled to others’ support.

Attempts others make to help the self-preservation blind person may actually evoke a feeling of deficiency. This may reinforce a tendency to want to seek out novel connections whilst downplaying the ones they already have as intimates have an ‘inside look’.

Often in the position of waiting for others to initiate new directions and endeavours that lead to growth or sustainable changes.

Often don’t give the task at hand the necessary complete attention for it to unlock, nor do they trust in their own resourcefulness.

They can lack discernment around relationships. There is a lack of input of the self-preservation’s eye to whether a specific connection might be a divergence from one’s own path, a waste of time, or dangerous.

Can stay locked into relationships that seem to support the self-preservation needs they don’t feel prepared to address themselves. Their time tends to be given away to other people rather than treated as something precious.

Can easily become scattered and depleted of energy because they are typically poor at cultivating habits that are restorative or authentically restful.

Frequently mistake ignoring the body as a form of physical resilience and strength, blind to the cost.

Pattern of living can be a consequence of the interpersonal circumstances they find themselves in rather than by intention.

Susceptible to fostering grandiose fantasies about themselves due to a lack of groundedness. They grow from learning to tolerate loneliness by attending to present state.

Characteristics are from John Luckovich’s book, the Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram.

Development of self-preservation

There isn’t a single human that doesn’t need to attend on or develop self-preservation at some point in their lives. That includes self-preservation dominant people.

Developmental opportunities are more likely than not for dominants and blinds. For self-preservation types, there may be an issue that is caused by the passion of your type in one of the self-preservation zones. For self-preservation blinds, there may be multiple issues caused by neglect in the self-preservation zones.

Actualised self-preservation instinct

The awake self-preservation instinct helps us to live and to create the external conditions that allow unconditional presence to thrive within us.

According to Russ Hudson, the ultimate ‘purpose’ of the self-preservation instinct from the spiritual perspective is to create a lifestyle that supports the wellbeing of the soul, a platform for the flowering of who we are.

Instinct and type combinations

A note about contradictions with type

For certain types, the self-preservation focus appears to contradict the passion of the Enneagram type. Building on the work of her teacher Claudio Naranjo, Beatrice Chestnut calls this situation ‘countertype’.

At the end of the day, however, the instincts and the passions are a measure of two different things. Also, there can be unexpected aspects or traits with all the 27 instinct/type combinations.

The best application of the theory of countertype is just to bear in mind that it can be difficult for certain self-preservation subtypes to identify their core type from the prevalent descriptions. Otherwise, paying too much attention to any contradictions (or allowing for too many) isn’t helpful.

The subtype pattern

Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes have identified some key interventions to do to that counteract or work with the preoccupations of the self-preservation subtypes. They are not exhaustive.

Self-preservation subtype deconstructors (from CP Enneagram Academy, resource from the Workshop ‘Providing Practical Enneagram Solutions’)

Type Eight

Go without basic resources; while in a state of need, do not take action; depend more on others; expose yourself as needy; share vulnerable feelings without defending in any way

Type Nine

Be uncomfortable; break out of routines; do things to show off; eliminate individual activities and physical comforts; own and assert power; and express anger directly.

Type One

Be disorganised and irresponsible; be easy on yourself; make light of the inner critic; pamper yourself; go against the rules; be inappropriate.

Type Two

Let others go first (in the food line); mimic self as child in an exaggerated way; figure things out for yourself; take on difficult challenges to step into power; do things to show you are an adult

Type Three

Purposely go slow or don’t do thing; be lazy; don’t take any action towards goals; be financially reckless and waste money on non-essentials; allow others to do things for you; communicate vulnerability; show off – let people know you want to impress them.

Type Four

Be weak and fragile; take it easy on yourself; take things lightly; ask for help; communicate your feelings to others; don’t do anything or go into action – just rest.

Type Five

Invite invasion; share a lot of personal information with others; spend more time physically close to people; spend money on non essentials; invite people over to your place regularly; ask people to surprise you and share their deep emotions with you.

Type Six

Engage in conflict and confrontation; express aggression and confront people with your strong opinions; show certainty and self-confidence; show yourself to be strong, powerful and authoritative; piss off a protector

Type Seven

Make do with less; be more minimalistic; negotiate for less benefits for yourself; prioritise the interests of others; show more dedication in support of others; feel discomfort and pain; and take the less pleasurable option.

How the passion manifests for self-preservation types

To read the three versions of a single type, you can do that on the type-specific pages.

Note that when we move along our connection points, we ‘keep the same instinct’ (and instinctual stacking). So if you hold questions about your type, read the self-preservation versions of the connection points as well. As a reminder:

  • If you are a type Eight, that is types Two and Five
  • For type Nines, that is types Three and Six
  • If you are a type One, that is types Seven and Four
  • For type Twos, that is types Four and Eight
  • If you are a type Three, that is types Six and Nine
  • For type Fours, that is type One and Two
  • If you are a type Five, that is types Eight and Seven
  • For type Sixes, that is types Nine and Three
  • If you are a type Seven, that is types Five and One

How the passion shows up in self-preservation types

Type Eight: Seek essential power through lifestyle and resources. Results in Lust.

Type Nine: Seek essential harmony through lifestyle and interests. Results in Sloth.

Type One: Seek to experience essential integrity through lifestyle and wellbeing. Results in Resentment.

Type Two: Look to experience essential love through attending to wellbeing, comfort and health of others. Results in Pride.

Type Three: Strive to experience essential value in their accomplishments, lifestyle and careers. Results in Vanity.

Type Four: Seek to experience essential depth through their lifestyle, creativity and self-expression. Results in Envy.

Type Five: Seeking essential quality of insight through lifestyles and interests. Results in Avarice.

Type Six: Seek to experience essential truth in their lifestyle, path of personal growth and resources. Results in Angst.

Type Seven: Seek to experience essential freedom through experiences and sensual pleasure. Results in Gluttony.